Happiness: Ideas on how to be happy during the Holidays when you are alone

Why you are not happy during the holiday season? Learn to become the happiest person during this holiday, even if you are living alone it is possible to make your days most happiest days ever. Every year around this time many people who are alone for the Holidays become depressed. For a wide variety of reasons, many of us find ourselves alone for the holidays. With the emphasis on families and being with others, the holidays can be an especially lonely and trying time, even for those of us who are usually okay being on our own. But don’t worry, there are many things you can do to make the holidays a little less lonely when you’re alone.
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I thought it would be nice to give some ideas on how to stay happy if you are alone.
Pick up the phone. Call friends and ask to be included in whatever they’re doing. Rodino suggests offering to bring a dish or seeing how you can contribute to the gathering. She says most people love opening their homes and expanding the celebration. It works for everyone.

Be proactive. Create an “alternative family” made up of people whose company you enjoy. Plan and prepare a potluck feast if you like. Remember that you are not alone in being alone during the holidays. Get together with others and have some fun.

Remember your bonds and blessings. Pull out photo albums and read old letters. While this may be bittersweet, Ellison says it’s “not toxic.” If possible, get on the phone and talk with loved ones who are still living. 
Don't dwell on it. Go out and meet new people. Sometimes just knowing there are people you can hang with is enough. Do interesting things. You will develop a following of others who are interested in what you do. There's someone who I met from this forum that invites me all the time and he calls to see how I'm doing periodically which is very much appreciated.

And more to be happy
I have a small shop set up and a good welding rig. If I ever catch myself bored, I can find plenty to do. This holiday I'm traveling up to Yankee land in which to help color up their language a bit and gain about 7lbs in 5 days. I'll be the cracker wearing 3 thermal shirts and a parka. . . .indoors.

I have a take down vegetable garden out in front of my house. Last week some people stopped by and asked if I'd be interested in sharing my process with their group. Could probably meet some folks there. They seemed to be about my age, give or take.

Music is a good thing too. When nobody is around you can listen to it as long and loud as you like. I've always been a loner so I am kind of used to it.

There's a local pub with pool, foosball and Guinness. I used to be an area champion at foosball back in the day and am still pretty good at it. Soon as a hot game gets going, word gets out and some of the old hands come out of the woodwork. There has been a revival of sorts around here because of it. Good times.

Most of us don't do so well without other people; that certainly includes me. Social isolation is a big factor in a lot of problem behaviour, from heavy drinking right up to suicide.

So knowing that, cultivate your network. Go to an organization that does something you deeply believe in, and be around people who feel the same way. Mend broken family relationships if you can. Find someone who needs a kind of help that you, fairly uniquely, can offer.
Aristotle was right; we are social animals. Even the more antisocial among us, from what I've seen.

De-mythologize and adjust expectations. Elaine Rodino, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Santa Monica, Calif., says there are so many categories of expectations about the season being just right that it brings up all sorts of issues relating to family, stress and anxiety, eating disorders, sobriety, self-esteem, competency — the list goes on. “There’s this idea that it’s supposed to be perfect, and if it’s not, the person asks, ‘What’s wrong with me?'” She adds that statistically, the number of “traditional households” in this country is not in the majority.

Travel. If you have the finances, get away for a few days. Go skiing or take a tropical holiday. Singles groups often have tour groups during the holidays. Rodino says this gets you out of the traditional holiday mindset.

Get through the day. If you’re unable to do any of these things, Dr. Rodino tells her patients to just get through it. Read. Sleep. Rent a video. And remember, tomorrow it’ll all be over.

The holidays can be a lonely time, but that doesn’t mean you have to feel alone. Stay focused on acknowledging and meeting your needs, and you’ll be surprised at how quickly the holidays are over.

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